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hi i was woundering if anyone knows any camps for 7 year old children with behaviour problems in NSW Australia?
our 7 yr old daughter is one pain in the neck (but we love her just the same) We really need some help The psycologist has told us exactly what we knew told us to do things we have already done with no success.
She has very low selfesteem, thinks everybody hates her she also soils her undies has done for 4 years now our whole family is suffering from it.
Any suggestions would be fantastic
Mel
oh Mel that is a worry for you all, so what has the psycologist said is there a name for her condition or is it mainly like mostly self esteem problems which must be horrible for someone her age although i can't remember a time where i was confident at all in life, but low self esteem is not good at all,i would have normally said that you might all be best to seek councilling but it sounds like you have already done that. sorry Mel but i just can't come up with anything just now but someone will I'm sure, i wish you Good Luck
oh Mel that is a worry for you all, so what has the psycologist said is there a name for her condition or is it mainly like mostly self esteem problems which must be horrible for someone her age although i can't remember a time where i was confident at all in life, but low self esteem is not good at all,i would have normally said that you might all be best to seek councilling but it sounds like you have already done that. sorry Mel but i just can't come up with anything just now but someone will I'm sure, i wish you Good Luck
thanks for that, we've been to every professional that there is with our daughter so now i think if she keeps it up we will have to resort to a behavioural camp.
i will cry the whole time she's away but it's not about me it's about getting her better.
Mel
I had a quick look at my old TAS references and came up with .an avenue you could certainly look into.
Also have a look at the site. They have camps for young children recovering from major trauma as well as programs targeting problems with self esteem.
When I was having problems with the TT I looked into special schools for him and was referred toat Concord. Now they deal with adolescents only, but were so helpful when I rang and enquired.if you get no joy anywhere else, maybe you could contact them as a last resort.
Any of those professionals that you have seen should have the necessary info to help you decide on a specialised school or camp and could also provide the necessary referrals.
I so hope that you do find something very soon, it is most heartwrenching when your little angel has these problems and all you seem to get is another door slammed in your face.
thank you very much heather i will certainly look into all the things you suggested.
You know what my hubby went to Rivendell, that was way back- then the school was more or less a catch up school - you know when your not doing your work fall behind your naughter(nice way to say it)
he has turned out fantastic.
Funny thing is her grades are great she can do everything it's just the soiling you know i can't stop praising the teachers at her school - they are fantastic. it's only a fairly small school compared to the rest so i think i'm lucky in that sence
Once again thanks for the advice
Mel
Mel, I know you say the teachers are terrific and I am sure they are but if she is soiling herself and has such low self esteem at the tiny age of seven, I can't help wondering if she is being bullied by someone at school or even on the school bus and the teachers have no idea of it, even though you say the school is small some times they can have a bigger problem with bulling than a large school. For such a young wee girl something big in her mind is really troubling her, soiling her pants and low self esteem are not signs of a behaviour problem she sounds truly sad and I feel sad for her something is troubling this poor wee soul
Have you looked in to having your daughter have individual counseling with a therapist without your presence. Alot can be resolved that way. Also, being a child development major, I have studied research that proves that positive guidance for young children is much more effective then just disciplining children and telling them all the things they are doing wrong. Places like behavior camps are proven to be more harmful for a child's development then they are good. That may not be true in Australia but that is the case here. I would suggest getting your daughter in to therapy and if she already is with the one you have now and it's not working then switch to another one. It's not an easy task, and your problems won't be solved over night, but it is possible to improve your child's behavior without sending them to a behavior camp IMHO.
Mel, I know you say the teachers are terrific and I am sure they are but if she is soiling herself and has such low self esteem at the tiny age of seven, I can't help wondering if she is being bullied by someone at school or even on the school bus and the teachers have no idea of it, even though you say the school is small some times they can have a bigger problem with bulling than a large school. For such a young wee girl something big in her mind is really troubling her, soiling her pants and low self esteem are not signs of a behaviour problem she sounds truly sad and I feel sad for her something is troubling this poor wee soul
she's not getting bullied yet, though i'm sure if she keeps getting worse they will. She's been doing this since i fell pregnant with our youngest. Which i don't understand as we love all our children give them time by themselves with us (we try as much as possible every week to spend time separetely listen to her read or go somewhere.)
She will get better stop doing it but as i tell her she's the one that has to change it we can't as we don't know when she needs to go to the toilet
This week TOUCH WOOD she's been going great but we just need her to keep going empting her bowels everday - it's tough as if you keep reminding her, she thinks your nagging her, so this week i haven't said anything she's been going but today hubby has to look see if she's hidden any in her room (usually what she does).
will keep everine up to date.
thanks for your advice
Mel
Are you sure there isn't a medical problem behind the soiling?
Like constipation? Often kids who are constipated are so blocked up that just small amounts of poo (sorry) leak out around the blockage.causing soiling.
If there are no suprises waiting in her room, I'd say a reward is in store.just for her. I know I don't need to tell you that she must know why she is being spoilt.
our 7 yr old daughter is one pain in the neck (but we love her just the same) We really need some help The psycologist has told us exactly what we knew told us to do things we have already done with no success.
She has very low selfesteem, thinks everybody hates her she also soils her undies has done for 4 years now our whole family is suffering from it.
Any suggestions would be fantastic
Mel
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oh Mel that is a worry for you all, so what has the psycologist said is there a name for her condition or is it mainly like mostly self esteem problems which must be horrible for someone her age although i can't remember a time where i was confident at all in life, but low self esteem is not good at all,i would have normally said that you might all be best to seek councilling but it sounds like you have already done that. sorry Mel but i just can't come up with anything just now but someone will I'm sure, i wish you Good Luck
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oh Mel that is a worry for you all, so what has the psycologist said is there a name for her condition or is it mainly like mostly self esteem problems which must be horrible for someone her age although i can't remember a time where i was confident at all in life, but low self esteem is not good at all,i would have normally said that you might all be best to seek councilling but it sounds like you have already done that. sorry Mel but i just can't come up with anything just now but someone will I'm sure, i wish you Good Luck
thanks for that, we've been to every professional that there is with our daughter so now i think if she keeps it up we will have to resort to a behavioural camp.
i will cry the whole time she's away but it's not about me it's about getting her better.
Mel
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I had a quick look at my old TAS references and came up with .an avenue you could certainly look into.
Also have a look at the site. They have camps for young children recovering from major trauma as well as programs targeting problems with self esteem.
When I was having problems with the TT I looked into special schools for him and was referred toat Concord. Now they deal with adolescents only, but were so helpful when I rang and enquired.if you get no joy anywhere else, maybe you could contact them as a last resort.
Any of those professionals that you have seen should have the necessary info to help you decide on a specialised school or camp and could also provide the necessary referrals.
I so hope that you do find something very soon, it is most heartwrenching when your little angel has these problems and all you seem to get is another door slammed in your face.
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thank you very much heather i will certainly look into all the things you suggested.
You know what my hubby went to Rivendell, that was way back- then the school was more or less a catch up school - you know when your not doing your work fall behind your naughter(nice way to say it)
he has turned out fantastic.
Funny thing is her grades are great she can do everything it's just the soiling you know i can't stop praising the teachers at her school - they are fantastic. it's only a fairly small school compared to the rest so i think i'm lucky in that sence
Once again thanks for the advice
Mel
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Mel, I know you say the teachers are terrific and I am sure they are but if she is soiling herself and has such low self esteem at the tiny age of seven, I can't help wondering if she is being bullied by someone at school or even on the school bus and the teachers have no idea of it, even though you say the school is small some times they can have a bigger problem with bulling than a large school. For such a young wee girl something big in her mind is really troubling her, soiling her pants and low self esteem are not signs of a behaviour problem she sounds truly sad and I feel sad for her something is troubling this poor wee soul
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Have you looked in to having your daughter have individual counseling with a therapist without your presence. Alot can be resolved that way. Also, being a child development major, I have studied research that proves that positive guidance for young children is much more effective then just disciplining children and telling them all the things they are doing wrong. Places like behavior camps are proven to be more harmful for a child's development then they are good. That may not be true in Australia but that is the case here. I would suggest getting your daughter in to therapy and if she already is with the one you have now and it's not working then switch to another one. It's not an easy task, and your problems won't be solved over night, but it is possible to improve your child's behavior without sending them to a behavior camp IMHO.
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Mel, I know you say the teachers are terrific and I am sure they are but if she is soiling herself and has such low self esteem at the tiny age of seven, I can't help wondering if she is being bullied by someone at school or even on the school bus and the teachers have no idea of it, even though you say the school is small some times they can have a bigger problem with bulling than a large school. For such a young wee girl something big in her mind is really troubling her, soiling her pants and low self esteem are not signs of a behaviour problem she sounds truly sad and I feel sad for her something is troubling this poor wee soul
she's not getting bullied yet, though i'm sure if she keeps getting worse they will. She's been doing this since i fell pregnant with our youngest. Which i don't understand as we love all our children give them time by themselves with us (we try as much as possible every week to spend time separetely listen to her read or go somewhere.)
She will get better stop doing it but as i tell her she's the one that has to change it we can't as we don't know when she needs to go to the toilet
This week TOUCH WOOD she's been going great but we just need her to keep going empting her bowels everday - it's tough as if you keep reminding her, she thinks your nagging her, so this week i haven't said anything she's been going but today hubby has to look see if she's hidden any in her room (usually what she does).
will keep everine up to date.
thanks for your advice
Mel
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Are you sure there isn't a medical problem behind the soiling?
Like constipation? Often kids who are constipated are so blocked up that just small amounts of poo (sorry) leak out around the blockage.causing soiling.
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If there are no suprises waiting in her room, I'd say a reward is in store.just for her. I know I don't need to tell you that she must know why she is being spoilt.