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[color=red]Well this is the situation I am in. My partner Sebastain went out to Leeds (aonther city) its about 1 and a half hours drive from where we live in Sheffield. He went out at 9:30 pm on saturday night and got back home on sunday afternoon at 2pm. I expected him back at 3:30 or at the latest 4:30. I was calling him from 4:30 till 9 am on sunday morning and he didnt pick up the phone to me. He called me from a phone box to my mobile phone at 10:30am and he said that he didnt come back that night because he got stranded in leeds. He told me that his phone and jacket and car keys were in his mates car and they had drove off and left him behind. He said that after the night club he walked to Leeds city center and sweet talked a woman into giving him some money for train fayre. Then he got the train home.
When he got back we had it out and I discovered that he was lying to me about him saying that he didnt have his mobile phone. I remembered that he didnt know my mobile number in his head so to call my mobile from a phone box he needed to know my number so he must have had his phone on him. So I just wonder what else he is lying about. The is a big possibablity that he pulled and went back to a girls house and regreted it in the morning . The trust I had for him is gone. I am devestated that he didnt come home that night and he didnt call and tell me that he was ok. I was so worried.
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Oh I wish I had just the words to help you out.all I can say is try and wait until you are calmer before asking him what really happened. You don't want to make the situation worse by saying something that can be taken out of context.
I really hope that what he has told you is the truth and that in typical male fashion he just can't understand why you would be worried.
Good Luck.I'm sure there are those among us who know exactly what to say to you.keep us informed.
Oh that totally sucks. Like Heather said, calm down first, have some time to think before speaking.
I'm sorry I can't be much help matey but I think that his first lie is leading to several more, I really feel for you. Try to keep calm and remember that we are here for you.
Oh my dear I feel your pain .
All I can say is that think for a while before you really get into it with him. If your not prepared to act on what he tells you really it would just be a wasted conversation.
What if he says that Yeah I did go to some chicks house and have sex, what are you gonna do?
What if he says I told you the truth and you can ring all my mates and check it out, are you gonna check on him?
What if he pulls out the train ticket stub and proves somehow that what he says is true.
It's a trickie, trickie issue and you have to be prepared for the consequences. If he did cheat and you are not prepared to forgive, it's gonna be hard to move on, if he didn't cheat and you are not sure of that it's gonna weigh on your mind each and every time that he goes out, is tonight the night that he cheats on me.
My prayers are with you and I hope that you make the right decision for you, cause really no one knows what they would do in your situation untill they are in it themselves and even then they have troubles with it.
good luck Natalie, i don't have anything to add to what the girls have said but, i do remember just after you joined AFW that you were concerned about your partner acting strange, sounds like you both just need to sit a talk out what you both want, i hope he was'nt lying to you Natalie
Good luck with it all Natalie.but once trust is gone it is a very long road back!
I feel so upset for you.I think hes cheating. As said before, think of all the scenarios and ask yourself how you will handle whatever the outcome is. I dont know what I would do.probably cry!
Its good for you to discuss it here as you wont feel alone and theres nothing like support from women, you know we all are sympathetic to your situation.Im so sorry you are hurt and I hope it can be resolved, the best way for you.
i really feel for you, i agree with the other ladies. No good comes from flying off the handle at him regreting everything you said the next day.
maybe what he say's is true, maybe it's not, there's nothing you can do about it now except calm down wait he might come out tell the truth.
i really don't know what else to say as i've never been in this position with my hubby as he would could not lie to me we have such an open relationship, it's fantasatic, so i really can't give you advice from experience just from common knowledge
Remember to as the truth always comes out in the end !!!
Mel
Natalie, I can really empathise for you and your situation. Listen to what the others have said about calming down and not lashing out. Lashing out will get you nowhere and I know this because of my situation with my ex.
He used to do these types of things all the time, only sometimes he would be gone for a week! He used all the excuses under the sun, but I found out they were all lies and he did cheat on me, often. Not saying that your partner is doing the same thing.
I hope for your sake he is telling the truth, but I can see why you would feel that you have lost all your trust in him. And once there is no trust, there is no relationship.
And, if he is cheating, he will continue to do so. Once a cheater, always a cheater.
that everything will work out well for you.
i was nataile talking when it happen she was upset and i was try to help as a good friend would do
When he got back we had it out and I discovered that he was lying to me about him saying that he didnt have his mobile phone. I remembered that he didnt know my mobile number in his head so to call my mobile from a phone box he needed to know my number so he must have had his phone on him. So I just wonder what else he is lying about. The is a big possibablity that he pulled and went back to a girls house and regreted it in the morning . The trust I had for him is gone. I am devestated that he didnt come home that night and he didnt call and tell me that he was ok. I was so worried.
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Oh I wish I had just the words to help you out.all I can say is try and wait until you are calmer before asking him what really happened. You don't want to make the situation worse by saying something that can be taken out of context.
I really hope that what he has told you is the truth and that in typical male fashion he just can't understand why you would be worried.
Good Luck.I'm sure there are those among us who know exactly what to say to you.keep us informed.
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Oh that totally sucks. Like Heather said, calm down first, have some time to think before speaking.
I'm sorry I can't be much help matey but I think that his first lie is leading to several more, I really feel for you. Try to keep calm and remember that we are here for you.
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Oh my dear I feel your pain .
All I can say is that think for a while before you really get into it with him. If your not prepared to act on what he tells you really it would just be a wasted conversation.
What if he says that Yeah I did go to some chicks house and have sex, what are you gonna do?
What if he says I told you the truth and you can ring all my mates and check it out, are you gonna check on him?
What if he pulls out the train ticket stub and proves somehow that what he says is true.
It's a trickie, trickie issue and you have to be prepared for the consequences. If he did cheat and you are not prepared to forgive, it's gonna be hard to move on, if he didn't cheat and you are not sure of that it's gonna weigh on your mind each and every time that he goes out, is tonight the night that he cheats on me.
My prayers are with you and I hope that you make the right decision for you, cause really no one knows what they would do in your situation untill they are in it themselves and even then they have troubles with it.
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good luck Natalie, i don't have anything to add to what the girls have said but, i do remember just after you joined AFW that you were concerned about your partner acting strange, sounds like you both just need to sit a talk out what you both want, i hope he was'nt lying to you Natalie
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Good luck with it all Natalie.but once trust is gone it is a very long road back!
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I feel so upset for you.I think hes cheating. As said before, think of all the scenarios and ask yourself how you will handle whatever the outcome is. I dont know what I would do.probably cry!
Its good for you to discuss it here as you wont feel alone and theres nothing like support from women, you know we all are sympathetic to your situation.Im so sorry you are hurt and I hope it can be resolved, the best way for you.
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i really feel for you, i agree with the other ladies. No good comes from flying off the handle at him regreting everything you said the next day.
maybe what he say's is true, maybe it's not, there's nothing you can do about it now except calm down wait he might come out tell the truth.
i really don't know what else to say as i've never been in this position with my hubby as he would could not lie to me we have such an open relationship, it's fantasatic, so i really can't give you advice from experience just from common knowledge
Remember to as the truth always comes out in the end !!!
Mel
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Natalie, I can really empathise for you and your situation. Listen to what the others have said about calming down and not lashing out. Lashing out will get you nowhere and I know this because of my situation with my ex.
He used to do these types of things all the time, only sometimes he would be gone for a week! He used all the excuses under the sun, but I found out they were all lies and he did cheat on me, often. Not saying that your partner is doing the same thing.
I hope for your sake he is telling the truth, but I can see why you would feel that you have lost all your trust in him. And once there is no trust, there is no relationship.
And, if he is cheating, he will continue to do so. Once a cheater, always a cheater.
that everything will work out well for you.
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i was nataile talking when it happen she was upset and i was try to help as a good friend would do