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My daughter has this girlfriend who has a baby girl nearly a year old my daughter has her wee girl 16 months, she has suggested to my daughter that they swop toys for a while as her wee girl is bored with her toys. My daughter is sort of in a spot and doesn't want to do this but is to soft to say no, we do have toy library here that you can borrow toys from
I actually think this is very cheeky of this women and told Toni to just say no I am not happy with that and they are not my toys to swop they belong to my daughter and are mostly gifts from her grandparents and family, I pointed out to her would you have liked me to of given your toys to some one else even if it was just for a while.
This maybe a modern thing I don't know, but as these kids are both babies I don't think it is very hygenic either
I wouldn't - at the age/stage Hugo is, he would get really upset if I gave his things to someone else (and he's not old enough to understand that they would come back) - not to mention he wouldn't want to give the borrowed toys back either He is just totally possessive of 'his' things right now.
(At the moment I am even finding it hard to separate 'baby' toys for #2, or to take some of his less-played with toys over to Granny's so he has toys to play with at her house).
He gets novelty value from other people's toys when we visit them, I would not ask to bring those toys home with us in exchange for some of his things either.
I would also worry that I would inadvertently lose/break/damage the borrowed toys and would then feel terrible, even if I replaced them.
I would be glad to GIVE toys away but the loan/swap situation does get a little bit awkward I think. Just my opinion
Yeah I agree with Naomi. I wouldnt do it, especially if there is a toy library there, if she really wants different toys for her daughter then she could go there IMO
I agree with Naomi, I wouldn't be comfortable with it either. Darcie has a lot of toys so I rotate them so she is always playing with different ones anyway (except her favourites, which she has all the time)
A few people I know love the toy libraries and I believe the toys are all sanitised prior to being loaned out to the next family, so perhaps Toni's friend should try that?
I agree with Naomi. If a loss or damage occured it could cause a problem. Maybe if your daughters friend removed some of her daughters toys for a little while and started rotating them, she might not get so bored.
Di Nana are you Scottish by any chance?
I find it a bit odd that her friend wants to swap toys, I've never come across a 12 month old baby that is bored with their toys, is she in an isolated situation that she can't get out to a playgroup or visit with other babies.
Maybe I'm a bit paranoid, but it just sounds rather odd to me.
There has been 1 or 2 occassions where a friends child has not wanted to part with one of my kids toys on leaving so I have offered for them to let them keep it until next time they visit, but they have never even taken me up on the offer.
[quote=amandas;17992
Di Nana are you Scottish by any chance?[/QUOTE]
no not at all, Dutch parents, but born in NZ, I know its the wee thing isn't it had it pointed out to me before am not aware that I use it so much it is not a NZ thing either or a family thing
no not at all, Dutch parents, but born in NZ, I know its the wee thing isn't it had it pointed out to me before am not aware that I use it so much it is not a NZ thing either or a family thing
And now you have Aussie Di saying it all the time too
Yeah, I think it would be a problem with swapping toys.I know the boys are good sharers (with each other) but I'm not sure how they would go if I lent their toys to someone and then when we had a play date how they would go at my friends house seeing their toys.I think they would want to take them home again.and yep I dont think they would want to give back their 'new' toys either.
No I wouldn't, for all the reasons mentioned already and hygienic reasons, not to mention how much it would upset the girls that I gave their belongings to another child.
I actually think this is very cheeky of this women and told Toni to just say no I am not happy with that and they are not my toys to swop they belong to my daughter and are mostly gifts from her grandparents and family, I pointed out to her would you have liked me to of given your toys to some one else even if it was just for a while.
This maybe a modern thing I don't know, but as these kids are both babies I don't think it is very hygenic either
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I wouldn't - at the age/stage Hugo is, he would get really upset if I gave his things to someone else (and he's not old enough to understand that they would come back) - not to mention he wouldn't want to give the borrowed toys back either He is just totally possessive of 'his' things right now.
(At the moment I am even finding it hard to separate 'baby' toys for #2, or to take some of his less-played with toys over to Granny's so he has toys to play with at her house).
He gets novelty value from other people's toys when we visit them, I would not ask to bring those toys home with us in exchange for some of his things either.
I would also worry that I would inadvertently lose/break/damage the borrowed toys and would then feel terrible, even if I replaced them.
I would be glad to GIVE toys away but the loan/swap situation does get a little bit awkward I think. Just my opinion
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Yeah I agree with Naomi. I wouldnt do it, especially if there is a toy library there, if she really wants different toys for her daughter then she could go there IMO
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I agree with Naomi, I wouldn't be comfortable with it either. Darcie has a lot of toys so I rotate them so she is always playing with different ones anyway (except her favourites, which she has all the time)
A few people I know love the toy libraries and I believe the toys are all sanitised prior to being loaned out to the next family, so perhaps Toni's friend should try that?
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I agree with Naomi. If a loss or damage occured it could cause a problem. Maybe if your daughters friend removed some of her daughters toys for a little while and started rotating them, she might not get so bored.
Di Nana are you Scottish by any chance?
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I find it a bit odd that her friend wants to swap toys, I've never come across a 12 month old baby that is bored with their toys, is she in an isolated situation that she can't get out to a playgroup or visit with other babies.
Maybe I'm a bit paranoid, but it just sounds rather odd to me.
There has been 1 or 2 occassions where a friends child has not wanted to part with one of my kids toys on leaving so I have offered for them to let them keep it until next time they visit, but they have never even taken me up on the offer.
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[quote=amandas;17992
Di Nana are you Scottish by any chance?[/QUOTE]
no not at all, Dutch parents, but born in NZ, I know its the wee thing isn't it had it pointed out to me before am not aware that I use it so much it is not a NZ thing either or a family thing
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no not at all, Dutch parents, but born in NZ, I know its the wee thing isn't it had it pointed out to me before am not aware that I use it so much it is not a NZ thing either or a family thing
And now you have Aussie Di saying it all the time too
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Yeah, I think it would be a problem with swapping toys.I know the boys are good sharers (with each other) but I'm not sure how they would go if I lent their toys to someone and then when we had a play date how they would go at my friends house seeing their toys.I think they would want to take them home again.and yep I dont think they would want to give back their 'new' toys either.
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No I wouldn't, for all the reasons mentioned already and hygienic reasons, not to mention how much it would upset the girls that I gave their belongings to another child.