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My son is going through a rough patch at school. Seems kids hes hung around since primary school are now teasing him constantly. I want to just go up to the school and let them have it but seeing as he is in grade 11 i dont think he would appreciate it. I just want to protect him and make things right again. Why is being a mum to teenagers soooo bloody hard? Anyone have any ideas?
My son is nearly 12 (with the attitude of a 16 yo) so frustrating sometimes,especially as he seems ahead in some areas his friends aren't, you know girls and such. Do you know why they are suddenly teasing him? Maybe he has matured more than they have and they are jealous. Sorry I can't offer a solution but I know how you feel.
Jask I have a son the same age as yours so I can relate to the teenage angst of it all.
I am not sure that I would go up to the school just yet but of course that is YOUR choice.have you discussed it with your son and asked if he would like you to intervene on his behalf or is he willing to see if it will all blow over given some time? Please don't take this as me condoning bullying because I certainly DO NOT but teenagers seem to move onto the next thing very quickly and a little space may be a solution.
I know it is easier said than done but the more notice your son takes of these 'bullies' the longer they will keep up with their unacceptable behaviour.
Maybe a quick phone call to your son's year co-ordinator might be another approach you could try?
Good luck with it all.it is really upsetting seeing your child upset.please let us know how you get on with it all and please know that we are always here if you need to talk
My son is going through a rough patch at school. Seems kids hes hung around since primary school are now teasing him constantly. I want to just go up to the school and let them have it but seeing as he is in grade 11 i dont think he would appreciate it. I just want to protect him and make things right again. Why is being a mum to teenagers soooo bloody hard? Anyone have any ideas?
Yes I think its harder! I have a 13, 15 and 17 year old.I have 2 older ones that have been through the teenage years to. My 3 little ones, 5, 3 and 2 are easy compared to the rest. Ive had all sorts of issues. Im not sure he would like you to intervene just yet, I wanted to pull mine out of school but couldnt of course. Its very hard. can he have a small party and invite them over? What does he say about it all? Has his behaviour changed? Just watch for stress etc and maybe, (on the quiet) ring his teacher.Hope to hear how you go.good luck
Oh yes.and I think we are having a harder time of it than some of our parents.
Jask, if his behaviour/demeanour have not altered too drastically, it may be just a storm in a teacup.my almost 15y.o. has times when his best friends are his worst enemies and everyone from the teachers to the person at the corner shop is against him.
Of course you want to protect him.but he has to learn to cope by himself.
One thing you could do is to encourage him to talk, but let him come to you. When he does, ask questions in a way that will help him see a way out of the problem.
Good Luck.let us know how you are going.
Noooo! Everyone tells me boys are easier as teenagers!!!
You need to decide whether it is a 'storm in a teacup' as Heather has said or something more drastic. Kids need to learn to sort out problems for themselves to cope in the world later on. It's natural for parents to want to protect them, but they need to learn skills to deal with it themselves.
The World Haelth Organisation has stated that they believe mental health issues (depression, etc) will be the world's most debilitating health problem in the next 20 years. One of the biggest problems is kids not learning to cope, to express their emotions, to lose sometimes, etc.
I would definitely see the year co-ordinator if you are worried. Let your son know that he has you to talk to, but he also needs a male to talk to (I don't know if his father is there obviously ). Establish someone at school (teacher, etc) for him to talk to as well. Teenage years are hard and kids are cruel, but learning to cope there is a good grounding for life.
That said, as a parent, I feel for you!
Thanks heaps for the advice ladies. I think Im just used to my daughter telling me everything (well maybe not everything). My son has never been a huge talker and it took some digging to get him to tell me what he has. Although he tells me he is dealing with it i still worry. Its my job to make things OK again. I just have to remind myself that making things OK was much easier and straight forward when he was younger ( a hug and a tickle session seemed to fix everything). Being a mum was so easy for me when they were young but the teenage years have not been so easy. I keep telling my hubby that im not meant to be the mum of teenagers. Anyone want to swap terrible twos with troublesome teenagers? . No not really wouldnt part with them for the world
Hmmm. I'm pretty good with teenage angst! SO, how about a bub that still wakes night, a moody male 5 year old and a hormonal 7 yo daughter? Just for a week or two.
i love my Gkids as everyone knows LOL but
i would'nt want to be a mum again it's bloody hard work i feel for you all that are having probs
Jask, your son knowing that you are there for him is enough for now. He'll let you know.
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My son is nearly 12 (with the attitude of a 16 yo) so frustrating sometimes,especially as he seems ahead in some areas his friends aren't, you know girls and such. Do you know why they are suddenly teasing him? Maybe he has matured more than they have and they are jealous. Sorry I can't offer a solution but I know how you feel.
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Jask I have a son the same age as yours so I can relate to the teenage angst of it all.
I am not sure that I would go up to the school just yet but of course that is YOUR choice.have you discussed it with your son and asked if he would like you to intervene on his behalf or is he willing to see if it will all blow over given some time? Please don't take this as me condoning bullying because I certainly DO NOT but teenagers seem to move onto the next thing very quickly and a little space may be a solution.
I know it is easier said than done but the more notice your son takes of these 'bullies' the longer they will keep up with their unacceptable behaviour.
Maybe a quick phone call to your son's year co-ordinator might be another approach you could try?
Good luck with it all.it is really upsetting seeing your child upset.please let us know how you get on with it all and please know that we are always here if you need to talk
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My son is going through a rough patch at school. Seems kids hes hung around since primary school are now teasing him constantly. I want to just go up to the school and let them have it but seeing as he is in grade 11 i dont think he would appreciate it. I just want to protect him and make things right again. Why is being a mum to teenagers soooo bloody hard? Anyone have any ideas?
Yes I think its harder! I have a 13, 15 and 17 year old.I have 2 older ones that have been through the teenage years to. My 3 little ones, 5, 3 and 2 are easy compared to the rest. Ive had all sorts of issues. Im not sure he would like you to intervene just yet, I wanted to pull mine out of school but couldnt of course. Its very hard. can he have a small party and invite them over? What does he say about it all? Has his behaviour changed? Just watch for stress etc and maybe, (on the quiet) ring his teacher.Hope to hear how you go.good luck
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Oh yes.and I think we are having a harder time of it than some of our parents.
Jask, if his behaviour/demeanour have not altered too drastically, it may be just a storm in a teacup.my almost 15y.o. has times when his best friends are his worst enemies and everyone from the teachers to the person at the corner shop is against him.
Of course you want to protect him.but he has to learn to cope by himself.
One thing you could do is to encourage him to talk, but let him come to you. When he does, ask questions in a way that will help him see a way out of the problem.
Good Luck.let us know how you are going.
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Noooo! Everyone tells me boys are easier as teenagers!!!
You need to decide whether it is a 'storm in a teacup' as Heather has said or something more drastic. Kids need to learn to sort out problems for themselves to cope in the world later on. It's natural for parents to want to protect them, but they need to learn skills to deal with it themselves.
The World Haelth Organisation has stated that they believe mental health issues (depression, etc) will be the world's most debilitating health problem in the next 20 years. One of the biggest problems is kids not learning to cope, to express their emotions, to lose sometimes, etc.
I would definitely see the year co-ordinator if you are worried. Let your son know that he has you to talk to, but he also needs a male to talk to (I don't know if his father is there obviously ). Establish someone at school (teacher, etc) for him to talk to as well. Teenage years are hard and kids are cruel, but learning to cope there is a good grounding for life.
That said, as a parent, I feel for you!
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Thanks heaps for the advice ladies. I think Im just used to my daughter telling me everything (well maybe not everything). My son has never been a huge talker and it took some digging to get him to tell me what he has. Although he tells me he is dealing with it i still worry. Its my job to make things OK again. I just have to remind myself that making things OK was much easier and straight forward when he was younger ( a hug and a tickle session seemed to fix everything). Being a mum was so easy for me when they were young but the teenage years have not been so easy. I keep telling my hubby that im not meant to be the mum of teenagers. Anyone want to swap terrible twos with troublesome teenagers? . No not really wouldnt part with them for the world
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Hmmm. I'm pretty good with teenage angst! SO, how about a bub that still wakes night, a moody male 5 year old and a hormonal 7 yo daughter? Just for a week or two.
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i love my Gkids as everyone knows LOL but
i would'nt want to be a mum again it's bloody hard work i feel for you all that are having probs
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Jask, your son knowing that you are there for him is enough for now. He'll let you know.