Question:
To compliment or not to compliment
I have posted this in one other location...but I believe here is a very good place.
This would mostly apply to the males more so than the females; it's about throwing out bullshit compliments with no real thought behind them...just lust for the female body. I believe that everyone on this bodyspace site needs and desires encouragement and support from both sexes. It is good to hear words that up lift a person in their quest to be fit physically, mental, and emotional...and yes, a healthy body produces a healthy mind and attitude. But what I have noticed repeatedly is the same old bullshit lustful "so-called" compliments being posted to individual's photos...especially to females from guys. Compliments that really do not have thoughts of fitness, muscle definition, or weight loss to them. And I will not make an example out of anyone's compliments, but you know what I mean. In a lot of ways it makes the person receiving the compliment appear as nothing more than "show meat"...and maybe that is what they want to appear as. But I do believe most prefer compliments that touch on significant aspects of goal achievements rather than general outright sexual connotations and exposed body parts. Correct me if I am wrong on this? But I have heard a lot of individuals...especially females (and not just on the site) say they prefer other females to compliment them than males. And the only time females really appreciate a male's compliment is when it touches on a specific goal or achievement that has been made and that male has an understanding of that achievement, whether from past history or future intent.
My belief in these lustful compliments from males to females is to satisfy an emotional insecurity in the male's mind. That he receives satisfaction and acceptance in his own mind for giving out an elaborate compliment in hopes of a "Thank you" in return or something more detailed from the female. Another example being when females join Bodyspace, within five minutes 30 guys have jumped on her for a friend request; how insecure can one be? For a man to desire acceptance from a female or other male at that, shows that there is an insecurity problem that lies within him. And the same can be said of females too.
So my end point is think before you say...think real hard. Because when you do think real hard, 9 times out of 10, you will end up not saying anything. And that is the true compliment.
The challenge you just presented to males in general on this site is the equivalent of turning the tide out when it wants to come in. I prefer to compliment when compliments are due. That way the value of my compliments aren't lost on a person, male or female.
Women usually are able to detect the sincerity behind compliments from men, but, sadly, most women will still blow them off, especially on a site like this.
The challenge you just presented to males in general on this site is the equivalent of turning the tide out when it wants to come in. I prefer to compliment when compliments are due. That way the value of my compliments aren't lost on a person, male or female.
Women usually are able to detect the sincerity behind compliments from men, but, sadly, most women will still blow them off, especially on a site like this. I think most women blow them off because they receive too many, whether genuine or bullshit. You feed someone so much with compliments they start to take them for granted and expect them from all; they need to starve a bit. But I also understand that female too strive on compliments and the desire to stay in the #1-6 "Top List" of something on this site.
I think most women blow them off because they receive too many, whether genuine or bullshit. You feed someone so much with compliments they start to take them for granted and expect them from all; they need to starve a bit. But I also understand that female too strive on compliments and the desire to stay in the #1-6 "Top List" of something on this site. Using compliments sparingly is better than lavishing them on for any reason. And yes, I have noticed how narcissistic a few of the women are on this site. They expect compliments and they build most of their self-image on what others think of them. It's sad in many ways as these women should be self-assured in their own image and not base their self-worth on what others tell them. A confident (not arrogant), self-assured, capable woman is a turn on for me.
Using compliments sparingly is better than lavishing them on for any reason. And yes, I have noticed how narcissistic a few of the women are on this site. They expect compliments and they build most of their self-image on what others think of them. It's sad in many ways as these women should be self-assured in their own image and not base their self-worth on what others tell them. A confident (not arrogant), self-assured, capable woman is a turn on for me. I agree. And I do not state these things to insult everyone in everyway; but to really probe the heart and mind of individuals in concerns to their self-esteem and physical appearance...as the two go hand-n-hand.
Use of compliments sparingly or not, they should at least be sincere. to just throw out random comments with no substance behind them is what I believe most women see through. I don't think MOST women blow off compliments. Remember, there are a lot more women on here than just those who post on here.
Rebirthofcool, you have made an excellent point. And I see where this is an issue with both males and females alike.
While I can certainly see your point and agree with you to some extent, I must also say that there are plenty of members using bodyspace as a second myspace account. There are enough non fitness related, sexually provocative photos on bodyspace to warrant what you call "bullshit" compliments. I think people should be able to post whatever kind of photos they want on their bodyspace, but they should also be prepared for all comments (positive or negative). I personally have complimented quite a few people on here (male and female) for various reasons: muscular bodyparts, nice tattoos, nice overall transformations, strong lifts, and physical attractiveness (females only). I would hope that if anyone found my comments offensive they would let me know.
I have posted this in one other location...but I believe here is a very good place.
This would mostly apply to the males more so than the females; it's about throwing out bullshit compliments with no real thought behind them...just lust for the female body. I believe that everyone on this bodyspace site needs and desires encouragement and support from both sexes. It is good to hear words that up lift a person in their quest to be fit physically, mental, and emotional...and yes, a healthy body produces a healthy mind and attitude. But what I have noticed repeatedly is the same old bullshit lustful "so-called" compliments being posted to individual's photos...especially to females from guys. Compliments that really do not have thoughts of fitness, muscle definition, or weight loss to them. And I will not make an example out of anyone's compliments, but you know what I mean. In a lot of ways it makes the person receiving the compliment appear as nothing more than "show meat"...and maybe that is what they want to appear as. But I do believe most prefer compliments that touch on significant aspects of goal achievements rather than general outright sexual connotations and exposed body parts. Correct me if I am wrong on this? But I have heard a lot of individuals...especially females (and not just on the site) say they prefer other females to compliment them than males. And the only time females really appreciate a male's compliment is when it touches on a specific goal or achievement that has been made and that male has an understanding of that achievement, whether from past history or future intent.
My belief in these lustful compliments from males to females is to satisfy an emotional insecurity in the male's mind. That he receives satisfaction and acceptance in his own mind for giving out an elaborate compliment in hopes of a "Thank you" in return or something more detailed from the female. Another example being when females join Bodyspace, within five minutes 30 guys have jumped on her for a friend request; how insecure can one be? For a man to desire acceptance from a female or other male at that, shows that there is an insecurity problem that lies within him. And the same can be said of females too.
So my end point is think before you say...think real hard. Because when you do think real hard, 9 times out of 10, you will end up not saying anything. And that is the true compliment.
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The challenge you just presented to males in general on this site is the equivalent of turning the tide out when it wants to come in. I prefer to compliment when compliments are due. That way the value of my compliments aren't lost on a person, male or female.
Women usually are able to detect the sincerity behind compliments from men, but, sadly, most women will still blow them off, especially on a site like this.
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The challenge you just presented to males in general on this site is the equivalent of turning the tide out when it wants to come in. I prefer to compliment when compliments are due. That way the value of my compliments aren't lost on a person, male or female.
Women usually are able to detect the sincerity behind compliments from men, but, sadly, most women will still blow them off, especially on a site like this. I think most women blow them off because they receive too many, whether genuine or bullshit. You feed someone so much with compliments they start to take them for granted and expect them from all; they need to starve a bit. But I also understand that female too strive on compliments and the desire to stay in the #1-6 "Top List" of something on this site.
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I think most women blow them off because they receive too many, whether genuine or bullshit. You feed someone so much with compliments they start to take them for granted and expect them from all; they need to starve a bit. But I also understand that female too strive on compliments and the desire to stay in the #1-6 "Top List" of something on this site. Using compliments sparingly is better than lavishing them on for any reason. And yes, I have noticed how narcissistic a few of the women are on this site. They expect compliments and they build most of their self-image on what others think of them. It's sad in many ways as these women should be self-assured in their own image and not base their self-worth on what others tell them. A confident (not arrogant), self-assured, capable woman is a turn on for me.
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Using compliments sparingly is better than lavishing them on for any reason. And yes, I have noticed how narcissistic a few of the women are on this site. They expect compliments and they build most of their self-image on what others think of them. It's sad in many ways as these women should be self-assured in their own image and not base their self-worth on what others tell them. A confident (not arrogant), self-assured, capable woman is a turn on for me. I agree. And I do not state these things to insult everyone in everyway; but to really probe the heart and mind of individuals in concerns to their self-esteem and physical appearance...as the two go hand-n-hand.
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Use of compliments sparingly or not, they should at least be sincere. to just throw out random comments with no substance behind them is what I believe most women see through. I don't think MOST women blow off compliments. Remember, there are a lot more women on here than just those who post on here.
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Rebirthofcool, you have made an excellent point. And I see where this is an issue with both males and females alike.
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While I can certainly see your point and agree with you to some extent, I must also say that there are plenty of members using bodyspace as a second myspace account. There are enough non fitness related, sexually provocative photos on bodyspace to warrant what you call "bullshit" compliments. I think people should be able to post whatever kind of photos they want on their bodyspace, but they should also be prepared for all comments (positive or negative). I personally have complimented quite a few people on here (male and female) for various reasons: muscular bodyparts, nice tattoos, nice overall transformations, strong lifts, and physical attractiveness (females only). I would hope that if anyone found my comments offensive they would let me know.